On Single Blessedness

Bakit di ka pa nag-aasawa? (Why are you not getting married?) A query asked so many times.

Life is indeed unfair because there are many unwritten rules in the society which are unjust to humanity. One major issue is in relation to one’s vocation- whether single or married.

What is the unwritten rule? Society will demand and judge you automatically that if you are not a priest or nun, you have to get married or else you are gay or lesbian inconsiderate of what you know to be be who really you are. Judged already by societal standards using rubrics fabricated from the one side of the coin.  Others will even say that if you are “good looking” you are either gay/lesbian or taken. These are toxic ideas or fallacies which are affecting one’s mental hygiene. Society is very cruel. These are not true and people believe it to be true. Just because this is ascribed by the multitude. That’s why they marry for wrong reasons and just end up in the statistics of broken marriages, the trend nowadays.

Society rejected the reality of “Single Blessedness!” Sometimes some think to be single is a misnomer. They simply forget single blessedness is a calling! It is even a choice! Is it hard to believe that there are people who are not really for marriage? Others will say that if you are happy being single why marry somebody you don’t even know and take the risk of getting into a relationship which is sometimes bound to fail due to varied reasons?

Sometimes, due to societal pressure, those who are being blackmarked to be gay or lesbian true or not, tend to rebel in the society and so they make it happen.They decided to explore what is this societal prejudice of homosexuality among singles. Sad to say, they were trapped in the valliant web of the merciless arachnidal rule of the mob and ended as poor preys who undecidedly jumped out to damnation.

People don’t get married for so many reasons which narrowminded individuals cannot understand and instead of minding their own business, they will start rumor mongering or the business of gossip which is very much or highly profitable nowadays. Reasons of poverty, hereditary fatal disease, character/attitudinal problems, gender orientations and preferences and other logical justifications are just being responsible individuals for becoming singles for life. They just don’t want to victimize their future children to experience the bad genetics and questionable environment we live in today. This is acceptable which others cannot understand.

It is fearful to marry nowadays because there is an escalating number of married couples undergoing annulment due to reasons they only know. Love is not only the ingredient of long and lasting married relationship. If you cannot supply the financial demands of married life, love will exit and later on annulment will follow or problems of infidelity etc. Gone are the days of our grandparents and parents where fidelity was a steadfast value. But in the here and now, we are living in a different world where infidelity is the name of the game.

Single or married, we have different roles to play in this world. It's not because you are not in the majority's path means you are lost. 

In every vocation, whether you are married or single, there are always advantages and disadvantages. Let us just respect one’s vocation and pray for their success and happiness and stop mocking each other’s vocation.

After all, marrying to be just called married in your status is not the ultimate yardstick of contentment, success and happiness.